It suddenly dawned on me this morning that in these modern times we expect too much for little or no work. I know I'm in danger of sounding old but everywhere I look or whoever I speak to just reinforces this feeling. I lose track of how many times I have heard people say: "I wish I could be like them", "I wish I was dealt a better hand", "I wish I had those chances" because they can if they put in the time and effort. The successful people are only noticed once they are successful. Take an athlete, they are only really shown when they are at there pinnacle of there fitness when competing at some kind of games. A writer is only recognised when they have a book that has become a success. A film maker once they have made a movie seen by millions. It is very rare that you will see these people until they have actually succeeded at something, so you never see there struggles. Nobody knew JK Rowling until after the Harry Potter phenomena, nobody knew Brad Pitt before 'Thelma and Louise' put him in the spotlight and nobody knew of Usain Bolt until he managed to win in the 2002 World Junior Championships in Kingston, Jamaica. Nobody sees the struggles it takes to be at the top of their game, the many knock-backs along the way, the disappointments, injuries even. People just see the successes and want a piece of that fame and fortune. The sad thing is many people will just sit back and wonder or, worst still, blame everything and everybody for there lack of success. It's like they are blaming other people for not giving them these opportunities in the first place. It doesn't work like that opportunities are earned. It's about going out there and giving it a go. You may find out that after trying to be the next Usain Bolt or JK Rowling it's not for you. In which case at least you have given it a good go and you will probably now have even more respect for those who have broken through and made it. On the flip side, you may find your calling. Again, how are you going to know if you don't give it a go and instead moan about the 'hand you have been dealt in life' because I have news for you: at birth we are all dealt the same hand. Yes, it is true that for some people opportunities are more freely available but that doesn't mean anything in the big picture of life. If you have the will and drive to push out there, breaking the barriers that you face as you go, then I bet that you will be much more successful then someone who has it laid on their plate. It's about going out there and getting what you think you deserve, it's about bouncing back after every fall, it's about persevering when most other people would have quit. Only then, will you start seeing the fruits of your labour. It took Michael McIntyre 10 years of pushing to get known as the comedian he is today. That is 10 years of knock backs, hard work and belligerent motivation but he eventually made it.
What I am trying to say is: stop these expectations that you are owed a break in life and start working towards what it is that you want. It takes a lot of hard work, determination, dedication and an unwillingness to fail. We all fail at some point in our lives at something. It's about what you do after that failure. Will you bow over and get defeated by that failure or will you learn from what went wrong and continue pushing. Through our failures we grow. Through inaction we die.